The feedback problem nobody warns you about is this: the higher you rise, the less honest feedback reaches you. People filter what they tell senior leaders because the risks of candour feel larger than the rewards. So you end up making your biggest decisions with a quietly incomplete picture — and no one tells you that is happening.
Key takeaways
- Seniority filters the truth before it reaches you.
- The absence of bad news is not the same as good news.
- You have to engineer honest feedback on purpose; it will not arrive by default.
Why does feedback dry up as you get promoted?
Every level up raises the stakes of telling you something you might not want to hear. A junior colleague weighing whether to flag a problem to a C-suite executive sees real downside and little personal upside. Multiply that across an organisation and a pattern forms: the most important person in the room is often the least accurately informed.
This is not a sign of a weak team. It is a structural feature of leadership, and it gets stronger the more successful you become. Recognising it is the first defence.
What does the feedback gap cost you?
It costs you early warning. Problems that could have been small and cheap stay hidden until they are large and expensive. It also costs you judgment — decisions made on filtered information feel confident and are quietly wrong. The danger is not loud failure; it is the slow accumulation of blind spots.
How do you get the truth back?
Build channels that lower the cost of honesty. Ask specific questions rather than general ones — “What is the weakest part of this plan?” invites more truth than “Thoughts?” Protect the people who tell you hard things, visibly. Create a small circle of trusted people whose explicit job is to disagree with you. And get an outside perspective: part of why executive coaching works is that a coach has no agenda inside your organisation and will not flinch from the truth your title hides from you.
Frequently asked questions
Doesn’t an open-door policy solve this? Rarely on its own. People still weigh the risk of walking through that door. What changes behaviour is how you respond when they do.
How do I know if I have a feedback gap? If you are routinely surprised by problems your team “knew about,” the truth was reaching everyone but you.
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